Eliza
Eliza was diagnosed with neuroblastoma when she was just 8 weeks old, sadly passing away just before she was 8 months old from liver disease following her chemotherapy. Eliza’s Mum Hannah shared the difference Spread a Smile has made to her family, whilst Eliza was in hospital at Great Ormond Street Hospital (GOSH) and since Eliza passed away in February 2023.
“We met Spread a Smile one Thursday on our first visit to GOSH. It was an awful time as we didn’t know what was wrong with Eliza to start with and we were stuck in a hospital room, worrying and not knowing anyone to talk to. And then one of the Spread a Smile entertainers came in with her guitar and sang for us. Eliza was transfixed and it was so, so wonderful to see.
“From then on, every Thursday we would see the Spread a Smile entertainers and although Eliza was very young, she would absolutely love the singing. We also met magicians who would come and do magic tricks for my husband and I, which we both really enjoyed. It was nice to have something for us and we also got to know Josephine, one of the charity’s co-founders, and we were so grateful for their support on those Thursdays.
“In January 2023 Eliza was in GOSH for high dose chemo and I saw a Spread a Smile flyer about a family visit to see ‘Sing’ at the Everyman Cinema in London. We had three other boys at that time (we now have four!) and thought it would be the perfect thing for us to do together as a family as I’d rarely seen the boys over the past two months. So, we arranged for them to come into London for the day, and I don’t think we have ever felt so looked after and cared for as we did by Spread a Smile that day. The boys had never felt so special, and we were welcomed with open arms, treated to food, treats and entertainment before sitting down to watch the film together. I literally cried the whole time – just seeing us all together having such a special day out in amongst it all. That evening, I went back to the hospital and lay next to Eliza in bed. I made an Instagram reel of the photos of our day together. I cried all over again remembering how it felt to just be a normal family again, connecting and enjoying time together. It was truly amazing.
“Eliza died unexpectedly a few weeks later from a liver disease caused by the chemo. We went home and started to navigate life again after loss. And then in March 2024, Spread a Smile invited us to a Memorial Event to remember children who had passed away and it was such a lovely thing to do. After Eliza died, so much support fell away because it is understandably often directed towards families going through treatment. But that’s hard when you lose a child as you can suddenly feel very alone. The Memorial Event was a wonderful opportunity to remember Eliza and I cried through the whole thing, also knowing that the boys were so looked after by the entertainers there. At one point, I heard my son Jesse laughing so loudly I panicked as I thought he was crying and upset. But when I ran over, I found him laughing so hard with one of the Spread a Smile magicians and having the best possible time. When you’re just trying to keep going through grief, hearing your child laugh means everything.
“In the Summer of 2024 we went to our first Spread a Smile Summer Party and it was truly wonderful. I took three of the boys on my own and we had such a brilliant day. The Spread a Smile team are always so supportive, and the day was such a treat. Going to these events means we can stay connected with Eliza, with the charity that helped her and us whilst she was ill and in hospital. It is a way of reconnecting with the lovely people we met from the charity during that time. Eliza was unwell for most of her short life and our time with her was all about hospitals and the people we met there. This year all six of us will be at the Summer Party and it will be our way of reconnecting with Spread a Smile and remembering our time with Eliza.
“It takes a lot being a family with four young boys, managing grief alongside the day to day of school, friendships and everything in between. We often struggle to get out. Being able to go to things like the Summer Party is wonderful as we are so well looked after and don’t need to worry about finances, or the day-to-day stresses of life. We can just be together as a family, enjoy ourselves and remember Eliza with love, alongside the lovely people from Spread a Smile who have truly made us smile and still do to this day.”
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